Happiness is state of mind where you’re happy. It is the feeling that comes when you know life’s good and you can’t help but smile.
Everyone wants to be happy or live a happy life. I have never met anyone who finds solace in sadness. Isn’t happiness what we all strive for?
People say money can’t buy happiness. There’s is no doubt that money can buy most of the things we aspire to have – cars, houses, nice meals, luxury, whatever you name it. Some people even think money can buy them their other half – dream partners. And if money can buy many of this things then we should truly be happy.
But there is no doubt money can’t buy peace and health.
I can’t truly answer if money can buy happiness. You will have to answer that for yourself. The feeling of happiness is a subjective one but I can help you understand happiness better.
COMMON TRIGGERS OF HAPPINESS
Money will provide you with the basics in life. A roof over your head, clothes, food. The bare minimum you need to survive and be happy. If you are rich then that’s a plus. You can afford a life of comfort and luxury.
It’s worthy to note that people with high socioeconomic status(SES) have better mental health, life satisfaction, freedom from illness, live longer and are generally happier. While, in people with low socioeconomic status, the rate of depression is higher. So money might not be everything but it is definitely a game changer.
Sexual release is one of the most powerful triggers of happiness there is. Sex releases “feel good hormones” such as dopamine and endorphins that make us happy. The feeling of sex is so strong that you can easily get addicted to it. So frequent sex might increase happiness. It’s important to note that this feeling is temporary.
Studies have shown that lack of sex for a long period of time results in anxiety, a weakened immune system, lack of confidence, lack of sleep to mention but a few.
Drugs and Alcohol
You’re probably familiar with terms such as “sober” and “high”. “Sober” is a state that ranges from normal to sad while “high” ranges from happy to euphoric. Drugs and alcohol are the most common ways people use to get “high”. This might lead to addiction. You can read on break free from addiction here.
The happiness you get from this is also temporary. This is, however, worse because it reduces the threshold of happiness to a level that is lower than normal and as a result make you dependent on it.
Studies have shown there is a strong link between serious alcohol use and depression.
Exercise like sex and using drugs also releases feel-good hormones such as dopamine and endorphins which will make us happy. This also explains why it’s easy to get addicted to fitness – true for bodybuilders and fitness addicts. Doing fitness has numerous health benefits.
Exercising is a good way be happy temporarily if you’re feeling down or depressed. It is also recommended as a cure for addictions. When you start doing fitness regularly, you soon start to realize that you feel sober during periods you haven’t been regular.
There are certainly a lot more triggers – eating ice cream, chocolate, doing something you love, spending time with a loved one, a promotion at work, a trip etc. The feeling of happiness is subjective.
HOW TO BE GENUINELY HAPPY
Do you want to be genuinely happy? I mean living a life where you see the positive in it every day. This isn’t easy.
In life, pain is inevitable but suffering is optional. There are going to be days you won’t feel like waking up. Yes, there are going to be days you will be completely knocked down – It might due to depression, an illness, the loss of a dear one. Whatever it might be, these days will surely come. And you have to be prepared for days like this. You need to develop a strong mindset to keep going.
Sadness is a normal human emotion. We have all experienced it as some points in our lives.
Sadness and depression are related. They aren’t good for your health. They both can make your life miserable. Up to 15 per cent of those who are depressed die by suicide. You should always try to be happy or do the things that will make you happy.
A lot of people wonder why most times I’m happy. Don’t I have problems? I must say that sometimes this makes people envious of me – not something I desire but I wasn’t born this way.
I used to be a sad and pessimistic person–I have lost and I still do, I have failed and I still do. But what changed? Why do I still wear my genuine smile and have optimism no matter the situation? I had to change my worldview. I realized that life is too short. What worth is it to live an unhappy life? You would be very lucky if you lived up to 80 years. Why not spend every day being hopeful and happy. What could be worse than death?
One day we are all going to die. You have to see the world in a very different way if you want to be genuinely happy. You’ve got to create a different mindset. The one we haven’t been programmed to create. You have to free yourself from bitterness and learn to tolerate people. No one is ever going to be like you. We’re all unique in our ways.
The purpose of this article is not to tell you what exactly you should do that will make you happy – that’s subjective.
The aim is to explain to you how to create a very strong mindset that will prevent unwanted emotional states. This will make you happy by default. Come to think of it, if you aren’t sad, depressed, moody then at least you are still positive about life and it will be true if we say you are happy.
The opposite of sadness is happiness.
HOW TO DEVELOP A STRONG MINDSET FOR HAPPINESS
When it comes to true, genuine happiness, the mindset is key. Happiness is not only about positive emotions but also the mindset to go through any situation and come out victorious. The ability to not be broken and carry on with life.
As often as possible. When you are healthy and in good shape, you feel good, healthy and can think and work on other things that make you happy. You can read about fitness basics here if you don’t know where to start. Also, read why you need to be fit.
Being motivated regularly makes you to be positive and hopeful. It gives you the drive to go after the things that will make you happy – making money, working on your passion, finding a soul mate and so on. You can be motivated by reading motivational books, articles and listening to motivational videos on youtube.
Meditation is focusing one’s mind for a period of time in silence. This is a very good habit to develop. It will help you relax your mind and free it from anxiety.
If you’re religious then you’re familiar with the religious form of meditation.
You can try yoga if you want to combine meditation with physical activity.
Find a Passion
This is key to finding a purpose in life. If you have found your purpose, then your life has meaning, it’s worth living.
Even in a time of despair and sadness, there is something to keep you motivated. It’s probably the most important attribute you need if you want to be truly happy. It’s like the core and every other thing in your life rotates around it.
No doubts that making money is crucial to happiness. Money can be used to buy most things that will make you happy. You need to develop a skill that will earn you money.
It might be your passion or a job, so far you’re earning, that’s Okay. When chasing money, remember that the best things in life are free. Also, don’t forget money can’t buy peace and health. It might get you a good health care plan but it’s better to prevent your health from deteriorating – prevention is better than cure.
This is the feeling of strong or constant affection for a person, that includes sexual desire usually towards someone of the opposite sex. This is one of the things we can’t do without. It’s a psychological need embedded in our genetics we all crave for.
Your partner can be a reason for your happiness or sadness – your relationship can make or break you. It’s necessary to find the right person. Your sexual life also contributes to and triggers your happiness.
In summary, we have discussed the common triggers of happiness; money, sex, drugs, alcohol and Exercise. We also discussed what genuine happiness means. And lastly, we talked about the habits that will help you develop a strong mindset for happiness; Exercising, Motivation, Meditation, Finding a passion, Making money and Finding love.
I hope you find true genuine happiness!